Ember G Writes

Hi, hello! Here I am with another post. I hope you are safe and well! Friendship is a funny thing. It’s a mutual understanding, a bond and in some cases some kind of family member.

You share things with friends that you wouldn’t dare to share with family, you experience things with friends that you can’t explain. Friends see you at your lowest, they see you at your highest and witness, as well as experience those things with you.

Losing a friendship is apparently just as bad as a breakup, I wouldn’t really know about a breakup in all honesty… I know what its like to lose a friendship though. Now don’t panic, I haven’t lost a friendship recently! My older sister mentioned something today and just now, I kind of see what she means.

Some people take someone’s friendship for granted. They assume you will always be there, they know that you, as a friend, would drop everything if they needed you. Sadly, it isn’t always returned. I personally know 100% I would drop everything if a friend needed it, I have done it before.

I also know however that not many of the people I am friends with or have been friends with would do the same. I had this one friend from a few years back, I made a lot of effort for that friendship and well, it sort of came and bit me on the bum. Back then I was extremely hurt and angry, I probably didn’t deal with it the right way but considering the previous year I had experienced, it was understandable.

Recently I’ve kind of noticed a change in myself, I guess if I lose a friend or two I would be totally okay with that, at least I think I would? It might just be me feeling pretty content right now though! I don’t know why I felt the need to write this but I hope it helps someone?

Going back to that past friend though, I think it was good for me to lose that friendship. They had a lot going on, they kind of got themselves into situations and I managed to get dragged into them. It wasn’t a healthy friendship really, I’m thankful that it ended in a way…

I think that because I let that friendship go, I became a better version of myself? It was always them taking from me or offloading onto me or asking advice, but when I said what I thought, they got mad.

I guess what I’m trying to say is, its okay to lose friendships. I personally believe there is a reason as to why a friendship ends, or if you drift away from a friendship or two. It can only make space for something better? I don’t know how to explain…

This is in no means me saying I’m ending all my friendships of course! When I notice things I tend to have to get it into the open, otherwise it’ll bother me for ages!

That’s all for now! Thanks for reading!